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Dr Brady's avatar

A good read. Thank you for this well written piece. I do wish it would be published more widely. IT is not confrontational or mean, but a good social science summary.

I'm of the Free to be generation. I adored Tatum O Neal. I wore blazers and had a Hamil wedge haircut, wore pants and blazers and strangers often thought I was a boy. Glad I had parents who encouraged my self expression. I am also glad that when I did go through puberty the 80's/Edwardian look was in. A high neck blouse, oversized blazer and drindl skirt helped me feel safe as I got use to my body changes and the icky feeling when someone who looks like your dad is whistling at you. It wasn't until I was in my 20's that I felt comfortable being a sexy, feminine person. Had I gotten the bombardment of messaging teens do now, supercharged with lockdown I bet I could have gotten caught up in the question of what gender I am? I wish technology had stalled at the Blackberry

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As Lionel Shriver said in one of her essays, something like: I don't know what it feels like to be a woman I just am a woman. I understand that. I was lucky to grow up during the 60's with parents that liked sports and all those sports required strength and so that was a quality that was valued in our family for boys and girls. I didn't understand girly-girls. They were boring to me. They couldn't run fast and they didn't want to run fast. But I always liked boys so for me it wasn't a blossoming lesbianism but just a kid who loved nature and skiing and running and wearing my older brother's corduroys and hiking boots. That was considered 'cool' in my cohort. I don't understand why everyone wants to IDENTIFY as something. But I'm old and glad to be this age as I watch the madness unfold with the kids on social media and people thinking that it's okay for a biological man to identify as a woman and to race against women and if we don't agree with that insanity then we must be TERFS or TRANSPHOBES.

Nope.

We are not.

We are humanists and we are based in reality.

But thank goodness for you Lisa because your voice is so desperately needed here.

Your calm and your clarity.

The world needs your voice.

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