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Joy's avatar

As a trans widow I possibly could be accused of having a bias but what I do know is that many (all?) of us were ill treated and most were lied to by our partner. We have no support and very few people interested to hear or care about our experience. I agree that being GNC should be unremarkable rather than categorised. The giant trans umbrella is not inclusive, it divides everyone into gender categories and oft denies reality. I understand your approach, we do not come to a conclusion by focusing on our beliefs over reality and that is the essence of an unbiased approach.

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kilye dron's avatar

I believe your opinion about this matter is of much greater weight than that of people who have not had these men in their lives. Even coworkers of trans identified men often have issues with them (often bc they demand to use the female restroom). Denying his fantasy creates a narcissistic injury, and he becomes dangerous and goes on a campaign to damage the business or coworkers.

What knowledge is more salient than direct experience 💕

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Jonah's avatar

I had AGP for a long time and when it hit its worse, I read blogs from trans widows to remind myself what was most important to me -- my wife and children.

I would very much like to hear your experience if you wish to tell it.

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Joy's avatar

I would be happy to tell you but not publicly. I would also be interested to hear about your experience.

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Jonah's avatar

Do you have a suggestion? Maybe an email (lesser used account is probably best) that can be deleted?

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Lisa Selin Davis's avatar

Do you both want to email me and I'll connect you?

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Jonah's avatar

Hi. Just saw this again and wondered if there was still a place to send the email to.

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Joy's avatar

Thank you, that would be really helpful. I am not good at technology. Will see if I can manage to email you?!

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Jonah's avatar

Works for me. Where should I send it?

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