“My 7th grade schoolmates would call me a fag. “Progressives” would now call me “queer.” Because I don’t have gender dysphoria, it is pretty simple. I am a man and always will be a man. I am Tom. I always was Tom.”
I can relate to this more than I would like to admit in a public forum.
“My 7th grade schoolmates would call me a fag. “Progressives” would now call me “queer.” Because I don’t have gender dysphoria, it is pretty simple. I am a man and always will be a man. I am Tom. I always was Tom.”
I can relate to this more than I would like to admit in a public forum.
I feel inclined to add that even if you do have gender dysphoria, "i'm still my sex and will always be, i'm just me" can be both extremely jarring and liberating. Because gender identities have no legit boundaries and are often circular it promotes an unstable sense of self which is why is not unusual for many ppl questioning to swap genders over and over and crave constant validation to a conflicting level
Even if you still do (or haven't done but want to do) the things typical of transition such as changing name, throwing away clothes and grooming habits of your "assigned gender" for the opposite style or voice traiting, grounding yourself in your sex can let you approach things with a whole different (imo healthier) perspective.
I do feel deeply for all the kids who are growing into a world where overt gender nonconformity results in constant pushback and alienation, it makes perfect sense how the trans stuff becomes a release valve from all the pressure and hurt
“My 7th grade schoolmates would call me a fag. “Progressives” would now call me “queer.” Because I don’t have gender dysphoria, it is pretty simple. I am a man and always will be a man. I am Tom. I always was Tom.”
I can relate to this more than I would like to admit in a public forum.
Thank you. Gender stuff is so front and center these days it is hard to escape the self reflection. Coming to the "I'm just me" was pretty relieving.
I feel inclined to add that even if you do have gender dysphoria, "i'm still my sex and will always be, i'm just me" can be both extremely jarring and liberating. Because gender identities have no legit boundaries and are often circular it promotes an unstable sense of self which is why is not unusual for many ppl questioning to swap genders over and over and crave constant validation to a conflicting level
Even if you still do (or haven't done but want to do) the things typical of transition such as changing name, throwing away clothes and grooming habits of your "assigned gender" for the opposite style or voice traiting, grounding yourself in your sex can let you approach things with a whole different (imo healthier) perspective.
I do feel deeply for all the kids who are growing into a world where overt gender nonconformity results in constant pushback and alienation, it makes perfect sense how the trans stuff becomes a release valve from all the pressure and hurt