I am definitely feeling the fatigue, and the strain it is causing to some of my relationships. Not to mention the toll on my mental health. There is a big part of me that wants to just turn off Twitter and bury my head in the sand. But there is a bigger part of me that won’t allow that because there is already so much damage being done. We have to stay and fight!
Thank you for this! As a lesbian radical feminist activist who has been in many protests against men in women's prisons and recently testified at the Oregon legislature which nevertheless passed into law HB2002 which will, among other things, require medical insurers to cover any and all "gender affirming" services requested by anyone, including minors unbeknownest to their parents, I am often "fatigued". This is going to be a long struggle. We each need to pace ourselves and do what we need to sustain ourselves. Music can help! Ella reminds me of what I need to do! Even though I am not anyone's son! lol https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=5jbM0gVl_5w&feature=share
Not only sterilizing them, but often mutilating them as well. A double mastectomy is major surgery and involves a very painful recovery. "Monstrous euphemism" is exactly right.
Thanks for this. Here are the 20 Questions to Ask a Trans Widow:
Trans Widow Survey: (go to uteheggengrasswidow.wordpress.com, contact form with answers and for me to make sure you are not a troll. So far the 40 trans widows' data are honest and straightforward, not saying yes to every question)
1. Was his crossdressing a revelation or your discovery?
2. Did he then tell you it is under control, not frequent, and then it escalated out of control?
3. Did he select a therapist? Did that therapist or he claim the marriage is now a "lesbian relationship?"
4. Did he put money in a secret account or other venue and spend it on wardrobe, make-up, electrolysis, etc? Did he incur credit card debt for this spending?
5. Did he wear your clothing or make-up?
6. Did he suggest/coerce/cajole you into "sex role play" whereby you are to use a "strap on" or other sex toy and play a "male" part in bed? Answer that it was suggested even if you flat out refused and tell what happened if you were coerced and did it. I can handle all the details. The fact that one woman was physically damaged at the site of her C-section scar is important.
7. Did a therapist suggest any of the above as in #6? I am combining the answers of these two in the data but it's important for data to know whether mental health professionals were participating in this sexual harassment.
8. Did he defame/vilify you in affidavits submitted to court in the divorce/custody process or defame/vilify you on social media? Please, if both happened, do indicate.
9. Did he claim to any therapist or a group of friends that you abused him verbally or physically?
10. Did he attack you physically? Please indicate whether it was choking, shoving, punching, etc and if there were any bruises, scars and evidence. Also if the police were called.
11. Did he force unwanted sex with you? Did that happen more than once? Were the police called, were any charges filed?
12. Did you live below the poverty line or require governmental or family financial assistance at any time after the end of the relationship? Were you unable to leave because of money?
13. Did any members of the clergy (priests, rabbis, ministers) suggest that you have to give in to his requests to keep your family/marriage together?
14. Did anyone, therapist, friend, husband, or family suggest you now are obligated to "share Mother's Day?"
15. In your own individual therapy, or in the process of interviewing a therapist for yourself, did any mental health professionals tell you that he's to be referred to as female, with female pronouns in therapy supposedly centered around your recovery?
16. Did you lose a set of friends after he came out or after the relationship ended?
17. Did he start self-identifying as "mother" of the children he fathered or was step-father of?
18. Did he suggest/insist that the children call him "Mama-Something" or some other similar version of Mum?
19. Did a therapist or husband or any friends/relatives tell you that your rejection of and ending the relationshiop "caused him to decide to live as a female full-time?"
20. Did he co-opt your experience of childbirth, using the details of your labor to convince new friends of his "female status" and role as "mother?"
I don’t know why, and can’t figure out how to correct it, but I just saw both of your latest posts now. I’m actually sort of glad it turned out that way, as this post is an essential follow-up to the first. I have been increasingly depressed at how many people think this is just about young people and their personal journeys, and once they move on, we will all be OK. As you note here, the problem is far, far deeper than that. There are malign, well-funded individuals (let’s just start with Rachel Levine, who had the backing for the current extremely influential DHHS position from, among others, the Victory Fund) and many, many well-funded organizations who are ready, willing, and able to keep this going until they get their way, to the disastrous detriment of children, their families, women generally, and all of us who are same-sex attracted.
As you note here, the problem is, and to my mind always has been, the enshrining of this dogma in law and policy, and I see no hope as yet that Democratic politicians are changing course. Indeed, in NY, we are now on a fast track, with few yet aware of it, to having gender identity enshrined not only in law, but in the state constitution. From there it is a very short step, among other things, to a hate crimes initiative like the one afoot in Ireland and another in Michigan. Meanwhile, every day, it seems, another child’s body is ruined for life, and another family is torn apart.
It is continually demoralizing to realize that very little infrastructure exists to fight back, and what there is is fragmented, often unfocused, and severely underfunded. I do what I can, as I know we each do here, trying to educate friends and neighbors and, in mostly vain attempts, to get the attention of my representatives. As one example of how Quixotic these efforts often are, how can it be, for one, that I ended up spending an entire day to put together a fact-filled, oh so diplomatic analysis for one gay representative who is proposing a school curriculum bill that will make matters even worse than they are already for gays and lesbians? The likelihood that he will read it personally is next to nil; instead, his staff person, who uses pronouns in her bio, will be the one through whom what I wrote is interpreted.
This is going to be a train wreck for the Democrats in 2024 if they do not change course--all it will take is to have RFK Jr. run third party to siphon away just enough votes to assure a Democratic defeat--but if the Republicans are the victors, we will lose the final shreds of what little we have in a social safety net. It is a grim prospect, and I have yet to see the way out.
Yesterday I talked with a normie 50-year-old male relative, who wanted to be convinced that youth gender medicine is actually a problem. He wants to see some "numbers"--how many kids are transitioning, how many medicalizing, how many boys/girls, how many detransitioning, etc. I explained why it's almost impossible to get those numbers in the US. But could anyone point me to anything (perhaps European) that could show "numbers"?
I also explained that although I sound like a wild eyed conspiracy theorist, whatever numbers do exist are carefully suppressed.
This is one of the problems we're having when we talk to normal people about why we think this is a problem--they want more evidence, but the evidence is hidden.
I am definitely feeling the fatigue, and the strain it is causing to some of my relationships. Not to mention the toll on my mental health. There is a big part of me that wants to just turn off Twitter and bury my head in the sand. But there is a bigger part of me that won’t allow that because there is already so much damage being done. We have to stay and fight!
Thank you for this! As a lesbian radical feminist activist who has been in many protests against men in women's prisons and recently testified at the Oregon legislature which nevertheless passed into law HB2002 which will, among other things, require medical insurers to cover any and all "gender affirming" services requested by anyone, including minors unbeknownest to their parents, I am often "fatigued". This is going to be a long struggle. We each need to pace ourselves and do what we need to sustain ourselves. Music can help! Ella reminds me of what I need to do! Even though I am not anyone's son! lol https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=5jbM0gVl_5w&feature=share
"gender affirming" -- what a monstrous euphemism for sterilizing dysphoric and autistic children, for turning them into sexless eunuchs.
Pretty much on par with "ethnic cleansing".
Not only sterilizing them, but often mutilating them as well. A double mastectomy is major surgery and involves a very painful recovery. "Monstrous euphemism" is exactly right.
Thanks for this. Here are the 20 Questions to Ask a Trans Widow:
Trans Widow Survey: (go to uteheggengrasswidow.wordpress.com, contact form with answers and for me to make sure you are not a troll. So far the 40 trans widows' data are honest and straightforward, not saying yes to every question)
1. Was his crossdressing a revelation or your discovery?
2. Did he then tell you it is under control, not frequent, and then it escalated out of control?
3. Did he select a therapist? Did that therapist or he claim the marriage is now a "lesbian relationship?"
4. Did he put money in a secret account or other venue and spend it on wardrobe, make-up, electrolysis, etc? Did he incur credit card debt for this spending?
5. Did he wear your clothing or make-up?
6. Did he suggest/coerce/cajole you into "sex role play" whereby you are to use a "strap on" or other sex toy and play a "male" part in bed? Answer that it was suggested even if you flat out refused and tell what happened if you were coerced and did it. I can handle all the details. The fact that one woman was physically damaged at the site of her C-section scar is important.
7. Did a therapist suggest any of the above as in #6? I am combining the answers of these two in the data but it's important for data to know whether mental health professionals were participating in this sexual harassment.
8. Did he defame/vilify you in affidavits submitted to court in the divorce/custody process or defame/vilify you on social media? Please, if both happened, do indicate.
9. Did he claim to any therapist or a group of friends that you abused him verbally or physically?
10. Did he attack you physically? Please indicate whether it was choking, shoving, punching, etc and if there were any bruises, scars and evidence. Also if the police were called.
11. Did he force unwanted sex with you? Did that happen more than once? Were the police called, were any charges filed?
12. Did you live below the poverty line or require governmental or family financial assistance at any time after the end of the relationship? Were you unable to leave because of money?
13. Did any members of the clergy (priests, rabbis, ministers) suggest that you have to give in to his requests to keep your family/marriage together?
14. Did anyone, therapist, friend, husband, or family suggest you now are obligated to "share Mother's Day?"
15. In your own individual therapy, or in the process of interviewing a therapist for yourself, did any mental health professionals tell you that he's to be referred to as female, with female pronouns in therapy supposedly centered around your recovery?
16. Did you lose a set of friends after he came out or after the relationship ended?
17. Did he start self-identifying as "mother" of the children he fathered or was step-father of?
18. Did he suggest/insist that the children call him "Mama-Something" or some other similar version of Mum?
19. Did a therapist or husband or any friends/relatives tell you that your rejection of and ending the relationshiop "caused him to decide to live as a female full-time?"
20. Did he co-opt your experience of childbirth, using the details of your labor to convince new friends of his "female status" and role as "mother?"
I don’t know why, and can’t figure out how to correct it, but I just saw both of your latest posts now. I’m actually sort of glad it turned out that way, as this post is an essential follow-up to the first. I have been increasingly depressed at how many people think this is just about young people and their personal journeys, and once they move on, we will all be OK. As you note here, the problem is far, far deeper than that. There are malign, well-funded individuals (let’s just start with Rachel Levine, who had the backing for the current extremely influential DHHS position from, among others, the Victory Fund) and many, many well-funded organizations who are ready, willing, and able to keep this going until they get their way, to the disastrous detriment of children, their families, women generally, and all of us who are same-sex attracted.
As you note here, the problem is, and to my mind always has been, the enshrining of this dogma in law and policy, and I see no hope as yet that Democratic politicians are changing course. Indeed, in NY, we are now on a fast track, with few yet aware of it, to having gender identity enshrined not only in law, but in the state constitution. From there it is a very short step, among other things, to a hate crimes initiative like the one afoot in Ireland and another in Michigan. Meanwhile, every day, it seems, another child’s body is ruined for life, and another family is torn apart.
It is continually demoralizing to realize that very little infrastructure exists to fight back, and what there is is fragmented, often unfocused, and severely underfunded. I do what I can, as I know we each do here, trying to educate friends and neighbors and, in mostly vain attempts, to get the attention of my representatives. As one example of how Quixotic these efforts often are, how can it be, for one, that I ended up spending an entire day to put together a fact-filled, oh so diplomatic analysis for one gay representative who is proposing a school curriculum bill that will make matters even worse than they are already for gays and lesbians? The likelihood that he will read it personally is next to nil; instead, his staff person, who uses pronouns in her bio, will be the one through whom what I wrote is interpreted.
This is going to be a train wreck for the Democrats in 2024 if they do not change course--all it will take is to have RFK Jr. run third party to siphon away just enough votes to assure a Democratic defeat--but if the Republicans are the victors, we will lose the final shreds of what little we have in a social safety net. It is a grim prospect, and I have yet to see the way out.
Yesterday I talked with a normie 50-year-old male relative, who wanted to be convinced that youth gender medicine is actually a problem. He wants to see some "numbers"--how many kids are transitioning, how many medicalizing, how many boys/girls, how many detransitioning, etc. I explained why it's almost impossible to get those numbers in the US. But could anyone point me to anything (perhaps European) that could show "numbers"?
I also explained that although I sound like a wild eyed conspiracy theorist, whatever numbers do exist are carefully suppressed.
This is one of the problems we're having when we talk to normal people about why we think this is a problem--they want more evidence, but the evidence is hidden.
The Sex Act
Given that:
- In reality gender isn't part of reality.
- Ghosts, genders, and goblins are imaginary.
- Sex, stereotypes, and shaming are real.
- Everything else is fiction, and affectation.
- We each are given the precious gift of our sex which we live with for all of our days…
We have the right to the freedom of pursuit of happiness with the unalterable gift of our sex.
A child has the right to grow to adulthood with their sex without the intervention of adults.
We have the freedom to speak about our sex without speech being compelled by others.
We have the freedom to choose with whom we wish to assemble on the basis of our sex.
We have the right to intimate privacy which respects the needs our sex.
We have the right to live without compelled exposure to the intimate sex of others.
We have the right to share sexual affection without being compelled to do so against our will.
…Time is up. Subject is settled. Move on.