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Glenna Goldis's avatar

There's a lot here I like and want to engage with but I'm tripping over "the LGBT community [is] at a crisis point." I think gay youth seem to be at a crisis point; as to the LGBT community, I doubt whether it exists. Or at least, even though I'm a lesbian I've never felt able to access the LGBT community (or to access a specifically lesbian community). I'm curious whether other gays see what I'm saying, particularly millennial lesbians. I mean, that could be part of the problem for gay kids -- there's no authentic scene to mature into, and the vacuum is being filled by tik tok testosterone dealers or whoever.

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Mina's avatar

Thanks for this. It helps me name what makes me sad about my child’s trans identity. It’s not so much the transness. It’s that I worked hard to have my kid to grow up in places that allowed lots of safe exploration of gender and sexuality, and instead of being allowed to slowly figure out who she is, the world around her was so eager to pull her into specific narratives around gender nonconformity, and provide a narrative of exaggerated persecution. She really didn’t get that freedom to feel good about herself that I wanted her to have. As a middle school student, or as a high school student, in places full of gender non-conformity and relatively free of persecution or prejudice.

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